You don’t enter a marriage expecting it to end in divorce. Still, about one-third of first marriages end in divorce within five years. Divorce is an emotionally difficult event, but it is possible to have a healthy break up.
Cooperation & Communication
Most marriages generally end by unleashing a flood of emotions including grief, anger, anxiety and fear. Sometimes these feelings can catch you off guard, especially if they rise up when you least expect them. Although most of these emotions are normal responses to divorce and the intensity subsides over time for most people, it can result in a nasty divorce if both sides do not properly address their emotions.
In order to reduce the intensity of these extreme emotions and not let them make the divorce process harder and more stressful than it is, it is important for both spouses to communicate with one another. Keeping an honest and calm line of communication with your spouse will allow you two to talk about what you want and expect and address your concerns. This will in turn prevent pent up anger which can add to the stress of getting divorced.
Once you have established a healthy line of communication, it is also important that you cooperate with one another. Cooperation is especially important when it comes to making major decisions, such as finances, children and division of assets.
The Benefits of Mediating a Divorce Proceeding
Going through a major life event such as divorce is a significant and stressful process. In addition to being emotionally taxing, it can also be long, drawn-out and destructive to everyone involved, including your children. One of the most stressful parts of divorce is going to court.
Mediation is an alternative dispute resolution process that allows both spouses to mutually choose a neutral mediator to actively engage you in a series of discussions on all the necessary issues. A good mediator can help identify the relevant issues that pertain to your unique situation, listen to your goals and concerns, and help facilitate a peaceful resolution and end to your marriage.
During mediation you will cover divorce topics such as:
• A parenting plan and arrangements for co-parenting your children after the divorce is final;
• The financial support (known as child support) each parent will provide the children;
• The division of marital assets and liabilities (also known as equitable distribution or community property depending on the state you live in);
• Determining how much alimony (also known in some states as spousal support, maintenance or spousal maintenance) should be paid and for how long.
Call an Experienced Central Valley Divorce Attorney
If you are going through a divorce or planning to file for divorce, it is important that you have a knowledgeable attorney fighting for your rights. For more information or to schedule a complimentary consultation with a Central Valley divorce attorney, please call Gurjit Srai (209) 323-5558 or (559) 449-1447, or complete our online form.